As Tom Bangasser’s oldest sister, I know that many have tried to define him, and a few question his integrity and persistence. Perhaps Tom can best be understood by explaining our upbringing.

Most of us don’t stand up and question authority, or spend much time envisioning a better world and brainstorming how to get there, but Paul and Margaret Bangasser made this their life’s work. They drilled the message into their nine children with the belief that as good Christian citizens, it was our moral obligation “to show up and be counted.” We were made to realize that we were very blessed. This translated into gratefulness, sharing and stewardship. They believed, modeled and taught this message constantly and consistently. Part of the plan was education and lifelong learning. Raising a big family is expensive and exhausting, yet they always participated in a variety of school, civic and religious activities. They stood up at meetings, spoke about the greater good, believed in government that encourages citizen participation and, with family, showed up to help whenever needed.

Tom’s life is a result of these lessons. Some see him as frustrating and obstinate, and some as generous, creative and tenacious. As Seattle University student body president, a U.S. Army officer (Army Commendation Medal), the guy who took on a large bank in a lawsuit over extraordinarily high bank fees and won and an owner of property in a tough area of Seattle where the tenants think he’s great, he has led a commendable life.

Tom loves Vashon Island and camped here as a 10-year-old. He wants it to be the best place in the world!

— Margaret Bangasser Delaney

Oceanside, California